who told you that?! no really, who?
Every belief you have came from somewhere. Have you checked the source?
We're taught to question a lot of things. But we’re rarely encouraged to question the beliefs we inherited, the standards we measure ourselves against or the ways we unconsciously hold ourselves back.
These talks aren’t about positive thinking or pretending your way to confidence. They're about the hard, uncomfortable, beautiful work of getting to know yourself.
Who told you that?!
The signature keynote
You've spent years outrunning a voice that told you you weren't enough. Smart enough. Thin enough. Brave enough. Ambitious enough. This talk asks the question: who gave it to you? And why did you believe them?
Most speakers tell you that you can do it. I want to know who told you that you couldn't.
Positive thinking without self-knowledge is just noise. Until you interrogate the source of the doubt, it’s still weighing you down. I know, because I lived that way for a long time.
Who told you that? is not just a question. It's a practice. A way of turning the lens inward and asking: do I actually believe this? Does it serve me? And what becomes possible when I get to decide what to do with the answers.
You'll leave asking Who told you that? about everything. And with a practice for turning that question into self-knowledge and self-belief.
Who's in charge here?
Who told you that?! Leadership edition
I wrote a resignation letter once, in the office parking garage. Typed the whole thing. Never sent it. I went back into the building and made a different decision: to stop trying to lead by someone else's rules.
Most leadership advice teaches you to project confidence and never let them see you sweat. I spent years doing that and got results. Then I stopped pretending I had all the answers, started showing up as myself and went further than I knew was possible.
The future of leadership isn't louder or more polished. It's more human. The leaders who change things are the ones who know themselves well enough to show up without the armor.
Before a voice can be heard, it must be found. This talk is about finding yours and how you can transform your team when you do.
Says who?
Who told you that?! Culture clash edition
Germany will tell you with complete calm and zero apology that what you are trying to do is not possible. Das ist nicht möglich. I spent months somewhere between frustrated and furious before I noticed something: every time Germany said no, I found a way around it. Not because I'm exceptional. Because I refused to accept that no was the final answer.
That refusal is a form of self-knowledge. Knowing yourself well enough to trust your own read on what's possible, even when an entire culture is telling you otherwise.
Das ist nicht möglich isn't just a German habit. It's the voice of every inner critic, every closed door. I take one country's cultural default and turn it into the only question that matters when someone tells you it's not possible: Says who?
This is a talk about resilience and what happens when you decide no is just the starting point.
Talk formats
The signature keynote is available in 3 formats: a short, 15-minute TED style talk, a longer form 30-minute talk and a 60-minute keynote address. The Leadership and Culture clash editions run 20—30 minutes and work well as part of a larger program or panel day.
All talks can include audience Q&A and interactive elements or not. Tell me what works for your event and I’ll work with you to customize an experience that meets your needs.
Available for in-person and virtual events.